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Do you think that your spouse should tell you if someone they work closely with is attractive?
So, this week I finally made it over to my husbands new work. He changed schools this year and has been talking about how he really likes his new principal. He said she was about our age and had young children like us. What he failed to tell me was that she is beautiful. My husband has always said that he preferred blonds, up until he met me, of course (gag). I don't need to tell you what her hair color is, do I?
I would have liked to have been more prepared for this meeting. Instead, I had to pretend my mouth was full of sandwich in order to buy some time to compose myself. So her first impression was me looking like a cow chewing cud. I just think a little warning would have been nice.
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LOL..I can totally picture that scenario. But, you my dear are so pretty!!!
Oh, and to answer your question, I'm not sure about that. I mean, for him to "point that out" would make me think that he's thinking about her. Does that make sense?
umm if he worked with females..then hell yes.. then he would gettinga job as a lunch lady..never seen a good looking lunch lady..hehe..but since he works with is dad i hope he dont find him attractive..EEWWWW...
i never worry about that! i never had reasons why! plus he works with guys cause he's an IT specialist.. so i guess just gay jokes works with us:):)
And your question so reminds me of the Shopaholic and Baby book by Sophie Kinsella.. I read it a while ago but i laughed my socks out while reading it..you should read that book.. and also make a t-shirt that says "i hate that blond bitch".. and wear it to school:) jk .. don't so that.. she'll figure it out:P
Anyway.. this was fun! Aloha!
*my Aloha Friday's up too:)
I think that he totally should have said something. Sometimes guys aren't that smart that you may find that need to know information. I am so blunt with my hubs I always ask whenever there is a new girl, which is rare, but I do want to know if she is hot or not. He will tell me right off the bat. He knows eventually I will meet her and I know his taste so he knows that he better be honest cause I WILL call him out. Besides, maybe she's not a natural blonde, lol!
I don't think I would want my husband saying to me that someone he works with is really attractive. That would make me feel like he was actually thinking about them more than he should be. But, I do see your point. I would probably be upset either way, if he did tell me or he didn't tell me.
I don't think my husband would necessarily think about co-workers in that way to tell me. I have been to his office many times over the years and know all of the people he works with.
I wouldn't care one way or the other if my husband told me or didn't tell me he had an attractive lady in his office. It's all has to do with self confidence, self worth and self esteem and TRUST!
We talk about everything that's what makes our marriage strong.
Ignorance is bliss!
I think my hubby would probably tell me, but I don't know. lol I might get upset if he started talking about a co-worker who was attractive, since he works with guys!
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I really don't care.
Have a great Friday!
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That's not a situation Alan could win, either way. He played his cards right by NOT saying anything :)
My husband now works with cute girls, after more than a decade in an all male grunt job. I'm glad; it's improved his hygiene LOL.
Lol! :D
My boyfriend has only 2 female co-workers. And he thinks they are not that attractive, but for me they look really pretty and attractive.
LOL!
I do not think you have anything to worry about, you are very beautiful!
I personally do not care if he tells me or not.
I can totally see how you feel - anytime I ask hubby about what someone new at work look like he goes "ewww no". Well I hope it's true LOL. I trust him though.
You are beautiful Kari - so beautiful. I bet she looked at you and that's the first thing that crossed her mind.
I agree with the others though, if my husband just came right out and said it, that would be cause for concern. If I asked him specifically (before I met her) if she were pretty and he said no, well that would be another story.
He has a gorgeous wife - wrap your arms around him and know he's yours!
Geeze Kari, I though these were supposed to be easy questions!
I guess I would not want to know if they think someone at work is attractive.
Funny thing is, he may not even think she is attractive. I also bet that she took one look at you and was probably like "wow, his wife sure is beautiful"!
When my husband was hiring a new secretary I kept "joking" that he better not hire a sexy little thing...and when they hired the new girl he told me about her and then we met and she was old enough to be my mom - it was great! I think that if he would have told me that she was pretty I'd get insecure. But him telling me about her and introducing us is fantastic! Totally helps me trust him!
Being that he is in the ARMY (and works with all men) ....
Fortunately I don't have to worry about that much -- my husband is a contractor and he works with all guys. He did have a woman who worked with him for a while, but I never thought to worry about her. Never met her though either :-)
Hmm....... I would say, ''no...not necessary''. Even if the person is attractive-LOOKING, it really doesn't mean much. So she has a great personality, that's all the better for the work environment. If after you met her, you thought she was attractive, I still wouldn't worry about it.
I guess I can say this because my husband is in law enforcement. He has a female officer on his squad. She's nice, she's good-looking, but I know that my husband comes home to me at the end of the shift. The only thing I think about when he's at work, is the potential danger he faces everyday AND whether or not the people on his squad 'have his back!'
Kari...... you're a good looking lady. Seriously, you don't have anything to worry about. I think your hubby knows where he goes home every day!
Yes, I do think he should have told you she was attractive (from day 1 he should have told you). Sometimes someone is attractive until you get to know them and their insides spoil the outsides (pretty is as pretty does). So it is possible that he doesn't even think she's pretty or attractive anymore.
I don't think that I'd care to know, id I did, then I would probably be jealous maybe, or feel insecure. What you don't know can't hurt you. There are gogeous people everywhere, and there is nothing wrong with looking, but if your morlas when down the drain, and something more comes, then you deserve what comes to you!!!
They shouldn't be afraid to tell you, but honestly, that should be pretty irrelevant.
There is a fine line between being attractive and being attracted to...if they are just attractive, I would say no. You could tell by looking at them that they were attractive. We're married, not dead. :)
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I can't decide whether or not I would want to hear something like that but in a situation like yours, it would be nice to have a little "heads up".
Pssssh-You have nothing to worry about! She may be beautiful, but he married YOU which means your not only beautiful, but everything else he wants :D
As for the question, yeah I would want to know.
I don't think my hubs would think any of his coworkers were attractive unless they had princess leia buns and had an R2D2 ice cooler. You are beautiful, inside and out and should worry what blondie looks like. As long as she's a good principle.
Oh gosh... the only time I had that mini lump in my throat about one of his coworkers was when we were working together, and no one knew we were dating. Because girls adored him and I had to refrain from showing that I cared.
Now? It's not a problem. He's been hit on while working at someone's house and is completely oblivious to it. Gotta love him.
Yes, he probably should have told you before you met her in person...but on the flip side of the coin, maybe he doesn't really care that she's pretty, because he has YOU. ;)
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