I am not afraid of my husband. And since I am not afraid of him, I am sitting here in defiance of his order to curtail my blogging. So there. Take that.
Yesterday, out of the freakin' blue, he tells me that my blogging has gotten out of control. Mind you, he was the one who encouraged me to do this in the first place. I told him I couldn't, didn't have time, wasn't witty enough, blah, blah, blah. And he, being the terrific husband he was, told me I was selling myself short, gave me the "go get 'em tiger" pep talk, and I became A Giveaway Addicted Mommy.
How many of you are reading this as you are finally sitting down for the first time in hours, in a spit up stained shirt, sweats and your hair up in a ponytail? This time to blog hop is our escape. Sometimes, it is our only adult content contact we get ALL day. This time to write reviews or drivel is the way we keep our brain from turning to mush as we have spent the day watching endless episodes of Yo Gabba Gabba, Barney, The Wiggles or Sesame Street.
I have a one year old and a you-can't-make-me-sit-down-for-anything 2 year old that hang, drool, puke and occasionally poop on me. I am the object of projectile food, spit and snot. I am touched and touched and touched all day. All I want is to find a little spot on the couch and escape as soon as the little boys are finally corralled in their respective cages/cribs, and the teenager and husband have been fed.
This is just a phase. I won't always feel this way. I have reached out for help and have had such a great response of support & advice. I learned I am not alone with this issue. I am sure he is pissed at me right now, but that is ok, because so am I. Soon I will be "off of work" as the boys head up to bed. Since I am not supposed to blog, I guess I will do what I did last night and simply go to sleep because that is another thing I have given up to be a mom/wife/blogger.
So there.
.jpg)
.jpg)
.jpg)
Preach it sister!!!!
I echo this sentiment, entirely!
I am entering giveaways instead of going to bed as I was told I should.
;)
Here's to defiance, in an effort to maintain a personal moment or two for the sake of sanity!
Oh Kari!
What an awful day you must have had! I don't think he is right in the fact the he encouraged you and then thought that it was going to take what? 30 minutes a day to blog?
Yes, most days when I sit down at the computer it is an "at last" feeling! The kiddo are in bed and I get a few minutes to myself. Rarely is it enough as I usually start to almost fall asleep from the effects of the busy day I had.
The one thing I always try and remember in relation to blogging is that it is always worth it because of the great people I have met! I know you know that too, and I sure hope that tomorrow is a better day for you!
And BTW, I don't have spit up on me anymore, but I did go to work yesterday with spaghetti stains on my pants from the previous nights dinner! (That no, I didn't see before I left the house!)
Smile, cause we Love you!
I can totally empathize. The hubs didn't expect the blogging to become quite the draw. I hate skipping a couple days of posting and he'll usually end up caving to my pleas for him to write a post himself :)
In the end, it's always about balance for us moms isn't it? Glad it's a good break for you - you're talented at it!
My husband is on me right now to get a job, so I feel your frustration. I just ignore him when he talks about it (even though inside I know he's right).
Oh I feel so bad. I know how you feel because mine doesn't always understand either. I am trying to make money with my jewelry business, but it takes time and I'm afraid he'll give up on me before I am where I want to be, and I'll be back in the work world.
(hugs) I'm sorry I missed this Skypeversation today Kari. I don't know what to tell you except that I hope and pray everything gets resolved.
I know what you mean! I actually just got in an argument tonight with my husband over my blog.
I believe in you, your heart, your sense of self, who you are as a person, wife and mother and yes even blogger.
I wish I had the fast track answer to put this into perspective for both you and hubby - but I don't. I do believe, however, that you both can work through whatever this is.
Now fair or cool - blindsided is never a fair shot. You are a remarkable WOMAN in all your PHASES, HAT WEARING HOTNESS! don't you forget it!
holding your hand .. still and always...
I found you on the Aloha Friday website and I really came over here because you mentioned an expensive fireplace insert. And here I am now enjoying your blog. lol. Great...another one to add to my list now. *sigh*
My husband talked me into doing this too. And I love it. I feel guilty sometimes, but screw that. When he stops golfing, I'll stop blogging. (probably not) :)
My kids are all older now so it's easier for me. Having little ones though means you need this outlet all the more.
btw, that GE contest was the easiest thing I've ever entered, lol. NIIIIICE. Come enter my contest if you have time!
It's the same at my house - every once in awhile my husband will say that I spend way too much time on the internet. I know I do, but, I enjoy it, and it's my hobby, so I just say sorry and go on my merry way! :-) Hang in there, this too shall pass.
its all about balance baby, just set aside 2 nights a week to tuck him into bed like only you can and the rest of the week he'll sit patiently waiting for his next tuck in. C'mon you know the way to a mans heart? Take charge and both of you can be happy with the blog situation.
hugs
I used to get my adult conversation at the Starbucks drive-up window; tell Alan that at least yours is a cheaper habit, if only because of the drive required to hit the nearest Starbucks :)
I agree that balance is the key; it's easy to get too far into that escapist mentality on those really tough/annoying days (said from a shared experience!) and find all sorts of justifications for why we "deserve" or "need" it (whatever "it" might be - a blog, a latte, a new outfit).
But it's also easy for someone who has a predefined identity outside of the home to not fully recognize or appreciate how necessary it is for the at-home parent to have/want the same.
So balance - between his needs, the kids needs, and yours - with genuine reflection as to why you are blogging, each time you sit down to do it ... "am I meeting a need for adult interaction, or am I escaping from the realities of those bodily-fluid filled early childhood years?!" ... moderating yourself as necessary. And compromise - I think it's entirely reasonable to declare one or two days each week to be tech-free. For EVERYONE in the house. No television, no internet. Just uh, you know ... spending time together. I'd even hazard a guess that a week or so of that and Alan wouldn't mind you going back to your regularly scheduled blogging LOL.
It's hard to find time to blog with little ones and unfortunately that means a big dent into evening time with the hubs. My hubs would probably put the kaibosh on my blogging too if I let it take over every evening rather than just an hour or two once or twice a week. I'm lucky though I work three nights a week at my store and am my own boss so I can catch up on blogging there.
It is very difficult to balance each area of your life evenly! Dr. Laura Schlessinger is who I learn from. I don't believe or agree with EVERYTHING she says but she has a lot of great family values that make good sense! Her book "The proper care and feeding of husbands" is the best! It puts your crazy mixed up run around in circles life, into perspective with whats most important to deal with first and why. Give her book a try, it certainly can't hurt. It's helped my marriage, family and myself, to work so much more efficiently!! Good luck!
You tell em'!!
Don't ever let anyone tell you you shouldn't do anything/give up something you love-If he gave you the okay to blog in the first place, then he needs to realize that this is part of your life now whether he likes it or not.
I mean as long as your getting everything else done that needs to be done, why SHOULDN'T you spend some time to yourself?
Today so far. Only my kids have spoken to me. I dont know what to think. No adults.
YES this is our time to venture out and keep our brains from turning to mush!
My dh is hinting at the same thing and I haven't even been blogging that much!
Ooh when a woman is pissed. lol.
But seriously I hope you both come to an understanding as things will get much less tense :) *HUGS*
I am on the computer more than I sleep so I can see if my hubby says to get the heck off the computer, but you are right, it is me time and it actually relaxes me to enter giveaways. I am must be a long lost relative because I am addicted to giveaways.
I am by no means taking his side but if he is saying cut back because it is hurting your health or your family is being neglected, then I can see his point. But if he is saying it because he is inconvenienced then that is a different story. Touch cookies bub.